Sorry to hear that your partner isn’t appreciating you or being a team player right now. Hope things improve either with him or someone else and the anger and hurt give way to joy…
Thank you for your thoughtful words. The responses I’ve gotten from other dancers (both ones I know personally and ones I do not) have reminded me why I love the ballroom community. It hurts when one member is not supportive, but it’s nice to know how many other dancers still are.
Yeah, I know! You guys were fantastic! What are you going to do?
I don’t know. Hopefully he’ll man up and realize that he couldn’t have gotten that far without me. I’ll probably see him tomorrow, but it’s up to him if he wants to even be on speaking terms any time soon.
P.S. I was so excited every time you placed this weekend! Congrats!
“For all of the most important things, the timing always sucks. Waiting for a good time to quit your job? The stars will never align and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn’t conspire against you, but it doesn’t go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. “Someday” is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it “eventually,” just do it and correct course along the way.”— - Timothy Ferriss
A partner should build you up rather than tear you down, right? Today, my latin dance teacher was talking about how it’s easier for a skilled male dancer to pull up a less skilled female dancer, and my partner looked directly at me. Not only was the look obnoxious, but he laughed when I feigned a hurt expression. That feigned expression turned real as soon as I realized that he, in fact, was not joking.
Excuse me? Yes, I know I’m not the best dancer out there and I have a lot of work to do to improve. BUT, I have been dancing for almost five and a half years, and been a very dedicated dancer this whole time. Yes, I only started competing last semester, BUT, that was because he asked me to. I had wanted to improve a bit more before even thinking about competing or finding a partner. I definitely didn’t think I was good enough to jump right in and compete at the silver level. But I did. Because I am a nice person and he needed a partner, and apparently thought I was good enough. Now, I am apparently not good enough. Which, frankly, is complete bullshit. He’s a fucking gold dancer now because of the competitions he has done with me. There is no way he could have done that by himself and he certainly wasn’t getting there with any other partner.
I have put up with a lot of shit without taking it personally or getting angry, but this is too much. I’m actually really tempted to stick by my earlier words and tell him to find another partner to dance with.
The above rant is regarding a dance partnership, but I think it should probably be the same in any relationship.